If something happens and your feelings get hurt or you don't like the way that someone has treated you, it's important to do something about it. It's easy to get into the habit of sheepishly speaking up then cowering and retreating when the other person shuts you down. When this happens, the other person learns … Continue reading Change the way you respond
Tag: self-help
Becoming the real you
We can be so quick to find ourselves and figure ourselves out that we end up taking on traits, roles and habits to help us feel less lost. We then close ourselves off to experimentation and new ideas, it's too risky. In turn this leads to you becoming a person that isn't really you, it's … Continue reading Becoming the real you
With unlimited confidence…
That was the prompt in a self-help book I read around 6 or 7 years ago. It was followed by questions like: How would you behave?How would your relationships change?What would it allow you to do? I think it's a helpful set of words to get you thinking about how you might be limiting yourself. … Continue reading With unlimited confidence…
Learning to open up
One of the biggest reasons to open up is that it helps you realise that you aren't alone. So often we live our lives as if we are the only one who has faced a difficulty, felt lonely, been rejected, felt lost or was unhappy with the way they looked. We end up holding it … Continue reading Learning to open up
Self-deception and the power of checking in
Sometimes we trick ourselves into accepting things that we don't want. We make excuses and convince ourselves that we're so totally content with our current circumstances. This happens for a variety of reasons but a major factor is our core beliefs. If you don't think there is something better out there for you then will … Continue reading Self-deception and the power of checking in
Justifying rest
When you feel like you need to escape or getaway it often has nothing to do with your surroundings. Although you may find yourself wanting to book a trip or get a change of scenery in many cases it's actually your mind that needs a rest. You might think you need a holiday when in … Continue reading Justifying rest
Gets better with time
It's something you'll have no doubt read or heard countless times but it's true, some things really do get better with time. Maybe you're a teenager (or even an adult) feeling like you don't belong, you've experienced a harsh rejection or you have a physical injury. In the height of it, you might not be … Continue reading Gets better with time
Who determines your self-worth?
For many people, how they value or see themselves comes from other people. This might be great when people are treating you well and constantly telling you how great you are but when not so much when you’re treated and being spoken of poorly. You go from feeling good about yourself to not feeling good … Continue reading Who determines your self-worth?