Assuming the worst is easy to do but rarely beneficial. Sometimes, most often when you're too inside your own head, you can end up assuming the worst. This then leads to action (or over-reaction) about something that wasn't even true in the first place. You're more than likely to end up regretting it, wishing you'd … Continue reading Making assumptions
Tag: regret
Give it a week
Before you say or do something you might regret, give yourself time. Perhaps, your instinct is to react straight away especially if you're angry, upset or frustrated. And, sometimes that might be exactly what you need to do. But other times there is value in being patient and in having patience. It takes patience to … Continue reading Give it a week
Other peoples opinions
Sometimes we stop ourselves from doing the things that we want to do because we put others above ourselves. We choose to consider how our actions might make someone else feel, as if that is our responsibility. It often results in not doing the things that we want to do. In the moment, it might … Continue reading Other peoples opinions
Responding and reacting
The way you would react when you're angry, upset, frustrated or annoyed is not the same way you'd respond when you're calm and relaxed. Of course this is fairly obvious, yet how many times have you allowed your feelings to get the better of you instead of simply taking some time. What ends up happening … Continue reading Responding and reacting
How to know when you’ve made the right decision
It's all in how it feels. When you find yourself with a choice to make between A and B, the main challenge will be wanting to make the right decision. You don't want to pick an option that you might later regret. But the truth is most of the time, you never really know how … Continue reading How to know when you’ve made the right decision
The right people
A message I'm always keen to get across is that as much as it's important to open up, what matters even more is that you do it with the right people. For some that may be obvious but others might find themselves wondering who qualifies as 'right'. It really depends on the individual. However, there … Continue reading The right people
Missed opportunities
When you take the time to look back on your life, do you think there is anything you missed out on? The job you turned down, the work you were too afraid to put yourself forward for, the project you never launched... There are so many things that we all could have done with our … Continue reading Missed opportunities
The wrong time to apologise
Anytime you're being yourself (within reason of course). I recently had a situation where I considered apologising. In the end I didn't. Instead of saying 'I'm sorry', I clarified my thoughts on the situation with the other person. You see after giving it some thought I realised that an apology didn't feel like the right … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Regrets of an aspiring linchpin
Can you guess what book I've been reading? Over a year ago (on my other blog, wordsbygemm) I wrote a post about my job. Looking back, knowing what I now know I kind of regret my words. Here's what I wrote: Maybe, it’s strange that I sort of like being a cog in a machine, … Continue reading Regrets of an aspiring linchpin
Take a moment
A reaction rooted in anger is one you're likely to regret. Anything that builds up has to have a release eventually. And if you've tried to release or resolve it to no avail then it's important that you do find a way. Bursts of anger and outrage often come unexpectedly and end up being directed … Continue reading Take a moment
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