Sometimes we put our expectations and ideals on other people without considering the other persons own wants and needs. We feel empowered when other people meet our expectations and ideals. This is fine when things go our way. However, it is important to be able to accept that the other person is entitled to their … Continue reading Meet your own needs
Tag: reflection
Addicted to limbo
When you're used to something, you can end up creating situations in your life where you get more of it, even when it's not helpful. I recently had a conversation about a problem. From my perspective it was fairly easy to solve. From the perspective of the person I was with it was something challenging, … Continue reading Addicted to limbo
Making assumptions
Assuming the worst is easy to do but rarely beneficial. Sometimes, most often when you're too inside your own head, you can end up assuming the worst. This then leads to action (or over-reaction) about something that wasn't even true in the first place. You're more than likely to end up regretting it, wishing you'd … Continue reading Making assumptions
Joy and tragedy
It's can be easy to end up feeling guilty for being in a state of of joy when you know that people in other countries have had their lives turned upside down. How do we balance joy and tragedy? I think the answer is that we don't. I used to think to think that you … Continue reading Joy and tragedy
Clearing out a room
Imagine clearing everything out of a room until it is completely empty. You then dust, wipe the walls, vacuum the floor and then mop it. You wipe the windows and polish the glass. The space has now been freshened up and it's time to start bringing things back in. You'd be quite intentional about what … Continue reading Clearing out a room
Worth the effort
I recently tried something different and it didn't go to plan. For a short moment I felt annoyed that I'd wasted my efforts but then I caught myself. Was it not worth the effort to try? Instead of getting carried away with an unhelpful story, I could choose to look at things differently. So, I … Continue reading Worth the effort
A change of (new years) resolutions
After setting new years goals at the beginning of the year, February is the perfect time to check in. Perhaps, your goal was to learn to prepare some new dishes so you bought a few recipe books. However, after a few weeks you've found that you'd prefer to do it in a group setting. The … Continue reading A change of (new years) resolutions
Adjustment period
Most change takes a period of adjustment to acclimatise to the new way of living. Yet so often we're in a rush instead of embracing the settle down period. Change is like a wave. It can be big, ferocious and and pretty intense. But then it eventually settles. We tend to view the adjust period … Continue reading Adjustment period
Debunking myths about writers
There is this idea about writers, infact it applies to creatives in general. The idea is that our best work comes from a place of negative experience that serves as the poker that stokes our flames of creativity. I enjoy writing about being a writer, mainly because it's a title I struggle to attach to … Continue reading Debunking myths about writers
Give yourself 5 minutes
It probably doesn't seem like much or like it could possible be enough but sometimes all you need is 5 minutes. So often we tell ourselves that we don't have the time for certain things. They could be things that take minutes not hours or days but somehow we still find a way to make … Continue reading Give yourself 5 minutes
The Daily Gemm 