That's how the story of how I discovered the person who would become one of my biggest life inspirations begins. This person would go on to help influence the words I wrote, the person I've become and the things that I chose to do. At 17 I liked to think that I was someone who … Continue reading A 17 year old walks into a bookshop in Wales…
Tag: reflection
The right time to quit
Perhaps there is no right time. It's easy to quit in the early stages but gets harder over time. After 3 years once you'veĀ invested time effort and energy quitting, even if it's for the best feels like giving up. And so, it's hard to know the right time to quit. If you've been working … Continue reading The right time to quit
Why sometimes you should do what you’re told
Have you ever had someone tell you what to do or what you need to work on and instantly put resistance to it, even when it's something you planned to do or know you need to work on? I have and I can take a wild guess that some of you have too. I recently … Continue reading Why sometimes you should do what you’re told
It’s a two way thing
When someone doesn't want what you're offering. In a post called generous projection,Ā I wrote about how when people try to help, they might just be projecting. I wrote it with a focus on the receiver but what about when you're the one trying to help. We often say things like I'm here if you wanna … Continue reading It’s a two way thing
Talk but don’t dwell
Often when we talk about difficult things we get so caught up in the story that we end up dwelling on it. Sometimes to the point where we end up reliving it and our bodies remember exactly how it felt. It could be a time you felt rejected, overwhelmed or ignored. It's not difficult to … Continue reading Talk but don’t dwell
You can’t bypass the brunt
I've learnt a lot by simply looking at my own behaviour and assessing what does and doesn't work. That's a large part of what I write and something that begins as why do I always xyz turns into me learning about a psychological theory, brain stuff and people stuff. Recently I've been learning through practical … Continue reading You can’t bypass the brunt
The blame game
You don't have to play, you can always opt out. I used to be the sort of person who would blame other people for the misfortunes of my life. Not in an explicit way but I felt that I needed certain people in my life to change in order for me to feel better in … Continue reading The blame game
Generous projection
When we give to others generously and it isn't received in the way we expected or would have preferred the first instinct might be to find fault in the receiver. But often what is actually happening is we're projecting. In many cases we give to others what we wish we had or could receive rather … Continue reading Generous projection
1000 and something days ago
Can you remember where you were at in life 3 years ago? Did you have a job? Where did you work? Were you happy? How were you spending your free time? Where did you live? What were you reading? What were your life goals? Who were your friends? Who were you dating? A lot can … Continue reading 1000 and something days ago
The second time around
It'll almost always be easier. Yet we often end up worrying about how wrong things went the first time and then history just ends up repeating itself. And then we start to lose faith in our ability, thinking that things are impossible, that we are incapable. The inner monologue gets carried away and you know … Continue reading The second time around
The Daily Gemm 