Everybody daydreams whether it’s a few seconds or dedicated moments in your week. Sometimes we daydream about everyday thing then other times our minds wander to things far out of reach.
It could be something like winning an award, moving to a new city or even meeting the love of your life.
But what do you do when that thing you used to dream about has now become your reality. One of the first things that might come up is a sense of familiarity because your mind has experienced it before.
However, what you might also find is that you’re not ready or prepared for your daydreams to become your reality. For example, let’s say you spent months daydreaming about moving to a new city. When the opportunity comes up instead of jumping at the chance you might end up passing it up because ‘now is not the right time’.
That might mean you never wanted it in the first place or maybe you’re just afraid of change.
Sometimes we put off the very thing that we know we need to do because we don’t feel ready.
We make excuses and say things like, I need more time, I’ll do it when xyz or even I don’t think it will go well. The list is endless.
At times, the truth is you’re not ready and you do need more time.
But other times, you’re in need of a push.
The only way you’ll do the thing you’ve been putting off is if someone forces you to.
Perhaps you’re someone that lives in a big city and you want to move away, change your lifestyle and slow down.
In order to do that you need to leave your job but you keep finding reasons why you can’t like needing to save X amount, work on one more big project or wait until things are less busy.
For that scenario the push would be being made redundant because maybe you’d never have left.
The push may initially seem like a catastrophic major life disaster but when you give it a little time you’ll always find that it was for the best
That may come in the form of you losing your job.
Because you’ll never be ready.
When it comes to fear the mistake we often make is trying to wait for it to go away.
It probably won’t.
But there you are saying no and putting things off because you think that by doing nothing the feeling will go away.
Instead how about try leaning into that feeling (I think Stacey June said something about leaning in on her podcast and maybe she got it from Brene Brown).
Anyway, an important lesson I’ve learnt this year is that you can’t bypass stuff so embrace it.
If not you’ll just end up making excuses and nothing will ever get done.
I’d like to do more with my life than just spend my days ruminating, daydreaming and coming up with plans.
I think that’s the case for most people. I think that most of us want to do something with our lives that matters to us as it gives us that feeling of significance, it gives us some form of direction.
Without that direction we’re just sort of aimlessly living and it can be easy to fall into a life that brings you very little joy.
But time and time again I’m reminded that plans aren’t enough, you need to have that willingness to take action.
This blog was something I’d been planning for a while and when January 1st came around I wasn’t ‘ready’ to be a daily blogger but I did it anyway.
I did it because often what we need to do is push ourselves because the truth is you might never feel ready.