It's easy to talk about the weather, your favourite TV show, what you had for dinner and what you got up to at the weekend. But often when it comes to topics like mental health, fears and struggles suddenly talking becomes difficult. Part of why it's so difficult is because we don't do it enough. … Continue reading Talking when it’s easy
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The misalignment of us
Most people that you choose to have in your life are chosen because your lives or you as people align in some way. It could be a similar taste in music, studying (or have studied) the same subjects, enjoying the same leisure activities, similar mindsets and worldviews or maybe you share the same aspirations. Whatever … Continue reading The misalignment of us
The pros and cons of labels
When it comes to labels, they can help people feel like they fit in and belong. Giving something a name can help a person feel more accepted and feel like they understand themselves better. On the other hand labels can also be limiting. As soon as you declare yourself to be X it comes with … Continue reading The pros and cons of labels
The people and the work
The idea that what you are doing might not be good enough can be difficult to accept. Especially when that might be the reason why people aren't supporting your work. It's much easier to hide behind the excuse that people just aren't supporting you because you're not popular but if it was *insert name of … Continue reading The people and the work
Vulnerability and having your needs met
Do you really know what you want? Often we go around telling people what we do want and even what we don't want. Doing so can help you feel like you know and understand yourself because you're able to articulate your needs. What can end up happening is, when the needs you voiced are met, … Continue reading Vulnerability and having your needs met
Enjoy the moment
If you're someone that writes you might find that you rarely allow yourself to just be in the moment. The most wonderful thing could be happening but your mind is already looking back on it or thinking about how best to capture it. Instead of just being in the moment, you're observing it so that … Continue reading Enjoy the moment
Feedback and praise
I think most people like receiving praise. Not necessarily in front of a large crowd with the spotlight shining down but to simply be told you did something well is more than enough. Many people go around thinking they're subpar and for them praise serves as a reminder that they're doing okay. It can be … Continue reading Feedback and praise
Settling with age
Most of us start out with big dreams of what we want to do with our lives. Then slowly, bit by bit, as the years go on we start to settle. We settle from setbacks that lower our self-belief until you've convinced yourself that they were unrealistic anyway. Other times you have people tell you … Continue reading Settling with age
Overstepping boundaries
I wrote about boundaries in a recent post but upon reflection I had more to add. Sometimes even when you are aware of a persons boundaries and you know it has nothing to do with you, you still try to overstep the mark. A person will do it in small or subtle ways because they … Continue reading Overstepping boundaries
Saying what you mean
There's no need to skirt around the issue. Being clear with your words might seem like a simple thing to do. Yet if you reflect on conversations you've had and the things you've said recently you might find times when you haven't been so clear. It might have been because you weren't really thinking in … Continue reading Saying what you mean
The Daily Gemm 