In some situations you might find that that there is a discord between what you want and the outcome you get. If you're unsure if this applies to you, think about some of your recent encounters with people. What did you want? What was the outcome? Were you happy with the way things turned out? … Continue reading Identifying the discord
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Understanding complex issues
When you discuss a complex issue with someone who has little to no knowledge of the issue, you're unlikely to get the desired outcome. More often than not you'll end up frustrated and they'll end up defensive. It takes time to learn and understand complex issues but it also takes some unlearning. When a person … Continue reading Understanding complex issues
The reason behind the risk
When taking a risk pays off, it's easy to get caught up in the fact that things turned out the way you wanted. But I think it's important to also focus on the reason behind taking the risk in the first place. You did it because you believed it was worth it, you knew it … Continue reading The reason behind the risk
The thing about missing out
Sometimes it might seem like you're missing out. But the power of hindsight is that when you push too hard for a particular outcome you'll find that you'll be glad you missed out. Turns out some things aren't meant to be even if you don't realise in the moment. We often get caught up in … Continue reading The thing about missing out
If the Leaning Tower of Pisa didn’t lean
The leaning tower of Pisa is one of the most buildings in the the world. Its lean comes from what I suppose was a flaw in geo-technical calculations. It is unstable soil and settlement of the foundation that causes the tower to lean. Yet, what could have been disastrous turned out pretty spectacularly. Probably because … Continue reading If the Leaning Tower of Pisa didn’t lean
Bravery and uncontrollable outcomes
Lately, I've been thinking a lot about risk, personal growth and trying new things. When you do something that challenged you it's only normal that you would want the risk to pay off. And when things work out it's great. You feel good inside because you were brave and it payed off. You'll probably do … Continue reading Bravery and uncontrollable outcomes
Should we be attached to the outcome?
Yes, no, maybe so. There's a thing in NLP about outcome based actions, that what we do should be based on the outcome we desire. But recently I found myself thinking about how it's important to not be too attached to the way things turn out. At least not to the point where you crash … Continue reading Should we be attached to the outcome?
Survival mode and everyday life
I recently tried something new and the outcome was not what I had anticipated it would be. In these kinds of situations our minds will start to tell stories of why we should stick with what we know and the dangers of exploring outside of that. You might be in a mental space where you … Continue reading Survival mode and everyday life
The second time around
It'll almost always be easier. Yet we often end up worrying about how wrong things went the first time and then history just ends up repeating itself. And then we start to lose faith in our ability, thinking that things are impossible, that we are incapable. The inner monologue gets carried away and you know … Continue reading The second time around
Same old, same old
What do you do when you find yourself experiencing the same situations over and over again. No matter how much your life seems to change you find yourself going through the same old, same old. Who's to blame? Why is it happening? And most importantly, how do you break the cycle? I'm going to have … Continue reading Same old, same old
The Daily Gemm 