Old ways

It might seem that right now there is little that you can do but revert to your old ways. If you've learnt self observation then perhaps you're used to your patterns of behaviour. Perhaps you can clearly map out and identify your old ways. And if you can do that then you can also choose … Continue reading Old ways →

The perfect character

I recently started watching a show from the 90s that has gained a significant amount of criticism for various reasons. Much of it I agree with, yet I still found the show (for the most part) enjoyable to watch. One particular bit of criticism that I didn't agree with was that against the main character. People … Continue reading The perfect character →

Internalising boundaries

You can learn a lot from someone by simply observing them. I recently noticed in a particular relationship that the other person had very clear boundaries. It wasn't anything that had been explicitly stated but through this persons actions it was very clear what they were and were not open to. Sometimes a persons boundaries … Continue reading Internalising boundaries →

Avoiding the issue

It's easier than you think. If you watch and observe the way people behave you might notice that they avoid the main issue and instead focus on the small things that do not in-fact make the big difference. Take for example the habit of procrastination. A procrastinator might end up feeling like they don't have … Continue reading Avoiding the issue →

An alternative to seeking reassurance

It was either Seth Godin or Simon Sinek that once said that you shouldn’t seek reassurance because it’s something you can never have enough of. I don’t think I fully understood the statement until I observed it in others and in myself. Reassurance creates a temporary fence of stability that lets you know things are … Continue reading An alternative to seeking reassurance →

Sort of like an apology

I suppose this blog is an indication of where I'm at in life. I've noticed slowly more and more personal snippets have seeped into my last few blog posts. There's been mentions of people and feelings which I never expected I'd put out on here but I think the only reason I'm okay with it … Continue reading Sort of like an apology →