People that are used to people pleasing know what it's like to put their own wants and needs aside. Sometimes, you convince yourself that you're just compromising to find a balance. This is fine, until you realise that you're the only one willing to change. This could all be with one person or apply to … Continue reading Bent out of shape
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Meet your own needs
Sometimes we put our expectations and ideals on other people without considering the other persons own wants and needs. We feel empowered when other people meet our expectations and ideals. This is fine when things go our way. However, it is important to be able to accept that the other person is entitled to their … Continue reading Meet your own needs
Saying what you need
As much as you might know what you need and even want, doesn't mean anyone else does. But sometimes we forget that and we end up feeling frustrated. We end up then wondering why the other person won't say or do certain things. We take it personally and we get upset. However, more often than … Continue reading Saying what you need
There’s no need for survival mode
A while back I came to the realisation that unless your basic needs like food, air and shelter etc. are at risk then any mistake you make or growth point you encounter is not 'the end of the world'. You can bounceback and get on with life. And that's it. Life is as life does … Continue reading There’s no need for survival mode
On learning to voice your needs
I just googled not being able to voice your needs and there were about 1,220,000,000 results. Being able to voice your needs is an important part of life. If you can't say what you need, you probably won't get it. If you've ever been that person you might have been lucky enough to find someone … Continue reading On learning to voice your needs
Vulnerability and having your needs met
Do you really know what you want? Often we go around telling people what we do want and even what we don't want. Doing so can help you feel like you know and understand yourself because you're able to articulate your needs. What can end up happening is, when the needs you voiced are met, … Continue reading Vulnerability and having your needs met
The build up
It's easy to talk about things that are easy. But when it comes to comes to feelings, wants and needs, things often get a little more challenging. Often problems will arise, simply because you didn't speak up and let the other person know how you felt or what you needed. When you hold things in, … Continue reading The build up
Tending to your needs
Now might be the perfect time. If you find yourself stressed, anxious or overwhelmed, you might also feel a little helpless. But the chances are you actually have a pretty good idea of what you can do to help yourself. Rest, put your phone down, turn off your tv or computer, phone a friend, stretch... … Continue reading Tending to your needs
Wanting to be included
Sometimes we want to be included because we want to join in and be apart of it. Other times we want to be included for the sake of being included. We want to know that we're being thought of, that someone wants us to be involved and maybe a small part of it is the … Continue reading Wanting to be included
Everything must go!
There's a lesson in almost everything. How much stuff are you holding onto that doesn't feel good. Think about who or what you're following on social media, what are you subscribed to, the contents of your closet or home space. How does it make you feel? If it doesn't feel good, why not? Furthermore, why … Continue reading Everything must go!
The Daily Gemm 