For the last few months of 2019 I’ve been creating a manifesto for each month that I read every morning.
It’s sort of like a list of affirmations around a specific theme like opening up more, speaking my truth or letting go. I don’t remember what sparked this idea but it’s something that I’d recommend.
In some ways it’s also like a love letter to myself full of encouragement and self-belief.
The purpose is to give yourself control over how you begin your day and re-affirm the intentions you have for not only the day but your life overall.
When I write my manifesto I ensure that I’m open and in-flow, I think about what I want to focus on for the coming month, what I need to work on or be reminded of and then I just write.
Each manifesto so far has started with the same 2 sentences that sort of set the scene and open up my mind to fully receive the words that follow.
It isn’t any form of magic but I’ve found that when I start my mornings declaring that ‘I am letting go of what no longer serves me and embracing joy’ it becomes embedded into my subconscious. All of a sudden I’m having moments where I’m questioning why I allow certain things in my life and if they are serving me.
I’m an advocate for having practices that help and this is just one of many things that works for me.
The basis of this particular practice is to begin each day by reminding yourself that change is possible.
There’s something about the word ‘manifestation’ or ‘manifest’ that has me furrowing my brows and more than willing to roll my eyeballs the whole 360. I began to notice the word around the time when everyone got into that book ‘The Secret’ and the law of attraction.
Suddenly people were declaring that you can attract whatever you want or desire by just thinking about it. According to them it was easy, as easy as cherry pie.
Maybe my reluctance to ‘get on board’ had something to do with my personal circumstances at the time, the fact that I can be a little cynical or maybe I just felt like there had to be more to it.
But then years later I started to notice a common thread in the events occurring in my life. Things I had once written down, daydreamed about or visualised started to happen in real life with total ease and no physical effort on my part.
Yet in parallel there were also things happening in my life that were sort of like misinterpretations of what I wanted.
As someone who likes to find a way of understanding things even if there is no scientific evidence to support my idea, I managed to figure out the cause of these ‘misinterpretations’.
These misinterpretations were simply an error in the programming where the output didn’t match the input, except for it did. These misinterpretations were happening in the areas of my life where I was most uncertain or conflicted about what I truly wanted.
At the time I was reading a book and it contained a whole section on setting intentions. It mentioned being clear, describing things though the 5 senses and focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want.
I suppose to summarise I can say that I believe in visualisation and writing things down. My own life is living proof that it works but if you aren’t clear about what you want you might end up something you’re not quite satisfied with.
When things aren’t going your way in life its easy to feel like things are out of control. Afterall if you had your way things would be going swimmingly, right. We often get caught up in thinking that life hates us, that we’ve been hard done by or that it’s only us that things are going through challenging things.
Sometimes we end up playing this victim role declaring how everyone treated you poorly, when perhaps you didn’t set boundaries or that nothing is going right, when you didn’t stop and access if the way you were doing things was the best action to take.
I’ve played the victim role in the past but these days I’ve shifted my perspective because I know that I play a big part in how my life plays out whether things are good or not.
Its much easier when you take responsibility because if I ‘messed things up’ then I can also fix things. But if it was someone else that caused all the bad stuff in my life then I’d probably grow to resent them and expect them to fix things.
I’ve seen the victim mentality in others and I do my best not to judge because I haven’t been through what they’ve been through and I once had that same mindset. But what I always try to do is remind people that they can change things themselves.
Once you become aware of something that’s the beginning of coming to realise that you don’t just have to allow things to happen in your life that you aren’t okay with.
Maybe that means finding a job that doesn’t drain you, spending time with people that treat you well, spending time with yourself, seeing a councillor/therapist or letting people know how they’ve made you feel.
Most importantly for me was reminding myself that I can’t control anything other than how I respond to things. If I want better in life, then I have to do better. It’s silly to be discontent with your life and think that it’s everything around you that needs to change.
It’s okay to admit that if you change certain things in your life you’ll be happier.
When you start with yourself you’ll notice that everything around you will start to change too.
At 17 I came up with a concept called ‘the exchange principle’. The idea behind it was that we often get alternative versions of what we want or what we think we want.
For example, you’re hoping to bump into person A but you see person B instead and when that happens despite it not being what you wanted initially it’s a great exchange.
As someone who sometimes really wants specific things the exchange principle has taught me that it’s okay to be open to more than one option.
Also the principle is not about not getting what you want or ever being disappointed with the outcome, but it helps me to focus on perspective and reminds me that things can turn out 101 different ways and still be okay.
Some people would perhaps call it a manifestation blip as in I’m not being clear about what I want which I suppose is a little humorous but I prefer the exchange principle so much more.