There must be some explanation for why we do it. When you don't want to do something or you know it won't be easy, putting it off feels good. There's pleasure in indulging in the freedom of future deadlines, future work or future responsibilities. But that doesn't mean that you can avoid them forever. That … Continue reading Procrastination pleasure
Tag: feelings
What’s the use in feeling bad about yourself?
Short answer: there is no use. If it doesn't feel good to feel bad then why not try something else? It's easy to feel bad about yourself when things go wrong but ruminating on that feeling isn't likely to help you improve and get better at whatever you're working on. Perhaps asking yourself 'what could … Continue reading What’s the use in feeling bad about yourself?
Knowing yourself vs knowing your anxiety
They might seem the same but they're not. An anxious person will grow to become familiar with the feeling of anxiety and how it manifests in they're day to day life. And over time they may find that they knowing doing certain things will trigger there anxiety so they won't do it. But not because … Continue reading Knowing yourself vs knowing your anxiety
The comparison monologue
Also known as complaining about all the things other people have. 'She's the same age as me but I'm pretty sure she's a millionaire (or at least not far from it), she successful, beautiful, has great personal style, has more freedom, more friends and probably more of something else beginning with F, like Fendi perhaps. … Continue reading The comparison monologue
Everything must go!
There's a lesson in almost everything. How much stuff are you holding onto that doesn't feel good. Think about who or what you're following on social media, what are you subscribed to, the contents of your closet or home space. How does it make you feel? If it doesn't feel good, why not? Furthermore, why … Continue reading Everything must go!
Take a moment
A reaction rooted in anger is one you're likely to regret. Anything that builds up has to have a release eventually. And if you've tried to release or resolve it to no avail then it's important that you do find a way. Bursts of anger and outrage often come unexpectedly and end up being directed … Continue reading Take a moment
The feeling is not the problem
I think this is what they call a break through. Perhaps we should look at situations from a neutral perspective. The feeling you have towards any situation is not the problem and that is the mistake that is so often made. We get so carries away by how dreadful it feels and sometimes that can … Continue reading The feeling is not the problem
Making notes, things to remember
I recently found a scrap of paper with a few sentences scrawled on it. I’d forgotten about this particular moment but as I read my words it all came flooding back. I’d written down some thoughts about a conversation I had with someone over lunch. It was from around 4 years ago which reminded me … Continue reading Making notes, things to remember
Midweek blues
When you're somewhere between Monday and Friday and feeling what one can only describe as blah, what do you do? You let it out of course! I used to think the answer was find a pick me up and get back to feeling good as quick as possible. However often when you take that approach … Continue reading Midweek blues
Back to the good stuff
I’d like to be writing something more inspiring, uplifting or thought prompting. But instead here I am writing tales of things that greatly frustrate me, of situations that turned out not quite as I’d have planned. But that’s the things with words, sometimes its necessary to just let them pour out instead of trying to … Continue reading Back to the good stuff
The Daily Gemm 