Just as ‘you’re not you when you’re hungry’ is the same way you’re not you when you’re worried. A person that worries chronically may end up having sleep problems, self-harming and developing fidget habits like pulling at their hair. Those kinds of behaviours often end up overshadowing a persons core self and then others fall … Continue reading What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?
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You can’t bypass the brunt
I've learnt a lot by simply looking at my own behaviour and assessing what does and doesn't work. That's a large part of what I write and something that begins as why do I always xyz turns into me learning about a psychological theory, brain stuff and people stuff. Recently I've been learning through practical … Continue reading You can’t bypass the brunt
The feeling is not the problem
I think this is what they call a break through. Perhaps we should look at situations from a neutral perspective. The feeling you have towards any situation is not the problem and that is the mistake that is so often made. We get so carries away by how dreadful it feels and sometimes that can … Continue reading The feeling is not the problem
Letting go of an old dream
What do you do when you wake up one morning and realise that the life you wanted is no longer something you want to pursue? How do you let go of an old dream? I’m still figuring out the answers to these questions so let me know if you have any insight. What I’ve discovered … Continue reading Letting go of an old dream
The concepts I promote
Go, go, go until you can go no more. I reject the concept of working yourself to the bone as it's hard to reap the rewards when you're ill with fatigue and exhaustion. But the concept of working hard to reach your goals and the concept of being committed are 2 things I'm happy to … Continue reading The concepts I promote
The importance of exploring
Who are you when you visit new places alone? Who are you when you deliver a presentation? Who are you when you're under pressure with a deadline looming? I think it's important to go out and explore these things as a way to explore yourself. Sometimes mediation helps, looking inwards is great but don't get … Continue reading The importance of exploring
Self-discovery
Don't spend so much time trying to figure yourself out and. Pondering and ruminating on where you fit in and the kind of person that you are. Give yourself some credit and remember that you aren't so simple that you fit into a neat box or that you're easy to label. You're complex and ever-evolving. … Continue reading Self-discovery
When you don’t get what you thought you wanted
My childhood perception of my twenties was that I'd be married or at least engaged, living in my own home and possibly have a kid on the way. But once I got to my twenties I realised that I used those things to escape from actually thinking about what I wanted to do with my … Continue reading When you don’t get what you thought you wanted
Tortured writers and the appeal of tragedy
And sometimes we write simply out of necessity. It's not that we have groundbreaking points to make or ideas to share but instead that we feel drawn to putting pen to paper or tapping away at keys. It's something we do for ourselves, everyone else is secondary because no matter how many people read, comment … Continue reading Tortured writers and the appeal of tragedy
Wellness cynics and setting intentions
There’s something about the word ‘manifestation’ or ‘manifest’ that has me furrowing my brows and more than willing to roll my eyeballs the whole 360. I began to notice the word around the time when everyone got into that book ‘The Secret’ and the law of attraction. Suddenly people were declaring that you can attract … Continue reading Wellness cynics and setting intentions
The Daily Gemm 