When it comes to opening up, do you know what you need in order to feel safe? A starting point is to ask yourself 'Will what I am about to say be handled with care?' I've learnt that people often hold their challenges dear. Even if it's not deeply affecting them now they still require … Continue reading Creating a safe space
Tag: experience
Understanding others
The easiest perspective to understand a situation from is your own. If you look back on past experiences you can get a good idea of why you respond the way you do, what gets you enraged and perhaps what helps you stay calm. But a helpful perspective to try and understand is the perspective of … Continue reading Understanding others
What do you want?
A seemingly simple four word question that is often almost impossible to answer. Even when you know what you want you're likely to find yourself making excuses for why it's not possible for you or how it's just a daydream. But also I think it's difficult to admit what you truly want when you know … Continue reading What do you want?
Who determines your self-worth?
For many people, how they value or see themselves comes from other people. This might be great when people are treating you well and constantly telling you how great you are but when not so much when you’re treated and being spoken of poorly. You go from feeling good about yourself to not feeling good … Continue reading Who determines your self-worth?
Taking advantage of kindness
So lets say you're someone who has a habit of running late. And this has happened quite a few times with Friend A who is always super understanding about it. Perhaps the first time you were late you were super apologetic and felt bad but you were also glad your friend was understanding and didn't … Continue reading Taking advantage of kindness
Starting over
So often we are afraid to start over. Maybe starting over feels like a setback, it feels easier to just keep going, you haven't seen it done before or maybe it just feels too risky. Those are valid reasons to stay where you are. But if you don't take a leap, you end up missing … Continue reading Starting over
The power of storytelling
Storytelling is a powerful thing. Not everything gets written down or photographed but stories can always be passed down as long as someone is happy to speak and someone is willing to listen. For many storytelling perhaps conjures up images of childhood sitting cross legged on the floor as the teacher reads you story or … Continue reading The power of storytelling
Slow progress
There's a popular saying that goes 'Slow progress is better than no progress'. I totally agree. What we often do is rush because we want progress to be quick. Perhaps this is because slow progress doesn't feel like moving forward in the moment. It's only, in a few weeks or months time that you're able … Continue reading Slow progress
Looking back
When you experience a mood change from sad to happy it's easy to find yourself looking back. Perhaps you do so because you remember what it was like to feel sad and you remember that you didn't think it would pass. But now all of a sudden here you are with a smile on your … Continue reading Looking back
Difficult conversations
A difficult conversation is a conversation worth having. It's hard speaking up when you don't know how to say things eloquently, you're worried about how people will react and feel like nobody will pay attention. But that doesn't mean you should say nothing. Maybe it means you should take a different approach, ensure you're talking … Continue reading Difficult conversations
The Daily Gemm 