I have this idea that sometimes there is comfort in moments of pessimism, in thinking about and accepting the possibility of the worst case scenario coming to life. It's not so that you can dwell but instead so that you can understand life sometimes turns out differently to how you expected. You just have to … Continue reading Finding comfort in moments of pessimism
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Pushing the boundary
Many people have an unspoken set of boundaries for what they do and don't do or a set of rules that govern the choices they make. And sometimes the boundaries that you give yourself become limitations. Suddenly you find that you're not doing the things that you want to do because your boundaries go against … Continue reading Pushing the boundary
High expectations
Or perhaps the title should read 'How to be eternally disappointed'. I don't believe in working yourself to the bone (well it's not for me anyway) however if your expectations are sky high, you might have to. You can't sit around passively going through life like a sociological ritualist and expecting the world. You'll only … Continue reading High expectations
Unexpected circumstances
Whether you're stressed, organised or relaxed as you go through life, unexpected circumstances will arise. It isn't necessarily anything good or bad but rather something you haven't planned for, something that you did not anticipate. Often these things knock us for 6 and we find ourselves stuck or setback. I think that comes from the … Continue reading Unexpected circumstances
Meeting expectations
Not those of others but your own. I think a lot of people have expectations for what they want out of life. And despite the popular phrase that goes something like 'If you're dreams don't scare you they're not big enough', high expectations can be overwhelming. But something that I've learnt is that you have … Continue reading Meeting expectations
The art of the gift
Currently reading linchpin by Seth Godin and learning a whole lot. I've been thinking a lot about the art of gift giving lately. Not in terms of a birthday or Christmas gifts but in daily life. The small or grand acts of generosity like saying good morning with a genuine smile or offering to help … Continue reading The art of the gift
Life changing habits: Let go of expectations
This used to be one of my worst habits. I'd do this thing where I'd place a lot of expectations on people that left no room for humanness and left me feeling disappointed. Once I realised that I did this I started making a conscious effort to stop. I've learnt how to catch myself in … Continue reading Life changing habits: Let go of expectations
It’s a two way thing
When someone doesn't want what you're offering. In a post called generous projection, I wrote about how when people try to help, they might just be projecting. I wrote it with a focus on the receiver but what about when you're the one trying to help. We often say things like I'm here if you wanna … Continue reading It’s a two way thing
Being professional and moving the benchmark
When you're a kid you think that 21 is grown up. You think that by that age you'll have everything figured out, that you'll have met your life partner and that you'll suddenly be this proper adult with a career... But then you get to that age and you don't quite feel how you thought … Continue reading Being professional and moving the benchmark
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