Call yourself out

Maybe you’ve been slacking with your time and attention lately. Cancelling plans, showing up late, knowingly giving the minimum effort required. But it’s in such a way, almost a subtle way that it’s not enough for anyone to call you out.

So, instead of waiting for someone else to do it, call yourself out.

Maybe write down what’s been going on in your life, talk to a friend, family member colleague or a professional. Answer things like what’s been going well, what hasn’t been going well, what have you been giving most of your time/energy to.

Lastly what are some things you can do to get out of the slump you’re in? These aren’t going to be one off quick fixes but instead things to do regularly over at least a couple of weeks before you’ll start to see results.

Some examples could be:

Meditate 
A perfect tool for anyone who needs to settle their mind.

Go to bed earlier
Yes, sleep is important and if your having trouble sleeping try winding down before bed with a book, meditation or essential oils.

Have a morning routine
It leaves less room for decision making and it means you start each day with direction.

Go for a walk every day
Something so simple that often works wonders.

Cut out/reduce watching Youtube or TV shows
Try doing something creative instead of just watching what others have created.

Drink more water
Because it’s good for you and most of us don’t get enough.

Journal
Letting out your inner thoughts is a great release.

Take a day off
Maybe you’re burnt out and what you need is to relax.

The great thing about calling yourself out is you give yourself the opportunity to take responsibility and change things, how great is that!

Feel the fear…

…and do it anyway.

The feeling of fear often comes up in a situation that is new or when there is a level of uncertainty.

We forget that it’s human nature to have that feeling of anticipation and I think what we end up doing is confusing it for ‘danger’.

The kind of danger where fight or flight is necessary is much rarer than our minds will have us believe.

In your day to day life when was the last time you encountered something dangerous?

Even if it all falls apart

I hold the belief that even if it all falls apart, everything will always be okay.

Which means that I often don’t give things as much effort as I could or should because I’m aware that everything will be okay, no matter the outcome.

When we take advantage of our circumstances life has this way of reminding us that we should make time for gratitude.

It might come in the form of something ‘going wrong’ or having to deal with an un-ideal circumstance. It’s in those moments that we can end up getting frustrated at life for dealing us such a poor hand or we can use it as a growth point.

I’m currently experiencing…

It’s difficult because…

It is teaching me…

Moving forward I will…

 

Taking the first step

We often know exactly what needs to be done but for various reasons find ways to try and get around doing it.

But eventually we find ourselves back where we started knowing that all we need to do is take the first step.

It might feel like the most terrifying the world. You might end up so anxious that the voice in your head is telling you ‘don’t do it, stick with what you know’.

All you can really do is ignore that voice because as soon as you take that first step you realise there was no truth to the thoughts of your anxious mind.

There’s that Chinese proverb that goes something like, ‘the longest journey starts¬†with a single step’

And where better to start than step one.

Spending time

Imagine if you took a break from Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, TV and Facebook.

How much more time would you have each week?

And if you used that time to work on something you truly care about or something that will benefit you like learning a new skill, learning a new language, studying, writing your book or exercising.

Would your life change for the better or worse?

Settlers and explorers

Some people choose to settle because they want a life of comfort, stability and familiarity. Or maybe it’s that they’ve figured out what they want from life or what they want to pursue.

Some people choose to explore because they have trust in the part of them that is curious to experience more in life and enjoy they the constant newness that comes with the explorers way of life.

Sometimes settlers become explorers when they realise how little they have experienced or when they gain this hunger for more.

Sometimes explorers become settlers when they grow tired of going from place to place or thing to thing and they feel fulfilled by what they have experienced.

Fear might hold you back from branching out and trying something new. But, as good as life might seem, you may find that it is just the sense of comfort that you crave not the life you’re currently living.

Or perhaps you choose the life of a wanderer because you crave the feeling of freedom. But you might just be running from something and it’s easy to make excuses when live your life in a way so that you’re constantly unsettled.

I think for me a mix of the 2 is necessary because you can gain so much from both ways of living.

I’ll do it tomorrow

But you’ve been saying that for the past few weeks now.

Tomorrow often seems more convenient or maybe you just hope you’ll be more in the mood to get it done. That’s how hours or days turn into weeks, we hold this belief that we should wait until we’re in the mood but you may never be in the mood.

So you may never get it done.

I’m looking into living more of a ‘do it now’ lifestyle. The main reason is because when I put things off I end up stressed and anxious which is of course no fun at all.

And so perhaps dear reader if you are little bit like me it might be worth making a pledge to yourself to ‘do it now’ more often.