You don't have to play, you can always opt out. I used to be the sort of person who would blame other people for the misfortunes of my life. Not in an explicit way but I felt that I needed certain people in my life to change in order for me to feel better in … Continue reading The blame game
Tag: change
Stop complaining and do something
Everybody complains every now and then but if that's all you do people will soon get bored. When you complain, you're identifying a problem and so the next step is finding the solution. Everyone goes through stages of wanting to change an element of their life but if you're not willing to do anything about … Continue reading Stop complaining and do something
Mind the gap
That's what's painted at the platforms edge. I suppose now is the best time to add the disclaimer that this isn't about jumping. The message painted on the platforms edge can be used in conversations about the distance between where you are and where you want to be. The gap is the space between the … Continue reading Mind the gap
Why shouting might not get the message across
The talker may assume the louder my voice the more they'll understand what I'm saying, or maybe they feel like you're not listening so they have no choice but to shout. Nobody likes being shouted at and so the listener instead of focusing on the message will focus on the fact that you're shouting and … Continue reading Why shouting might not get the message across
Godin, sunk costs and making the right decision
In the process of making a difficult decision I turned to the words of Seth Godin for guidance. I found a few useful posts on sunk costs and it made me realise one of the things I needed to stop considering. The past. When making plans for the future if you do it based on … Continue reading Godin, sunk costs and making the right decision
Dream a new dream
Remaining open to the uncertainty of life has many benefits but a reduction in stress and anxiety are definitely ones worth making a note of. And so when life doesn't go to plan it's okay to embrace uncertainty and dream a new dream. It's much easier to go with the flow of life than to … Continue reading Dream a new dream
Letting go of an old dream
What do you do when you wake up one morning and realise that the life you wanted is no longer something you want to pursue? How do you let go of an old dream? I’m still figuring out the answers to these questions so let me know if you have any insight. What I’ve discovered … Continue reading Letting go of an old dream
If your life is in a rut…
I think sometimes it’s easy for life to become a bit if a rut. Up at 0630, out by 0730, start work at 0830 finish at 1700, get home for 1800. Then eat, do a few house things like washing the dishes or laundry followed by things like reading, browsing online or watching a bit … Continue reading If your life is in a rut…
A different kind of way
When you're life is going down a certain path it's easy to believe that you have no other options, that forward is the only direction you can travel. Sometimes you know we can reverse but you get that 'I've come come too far to turn back now' feeling so you keep going in spite of … Continue reading A different kind of way
1000 and something days ago
Can you remember where you were at in life 3 years ago? Did you have a job? Where did you work? Were you happy? How were you spending your free time? Where did you live? What were you reading? What were your life goals? Who were your friends? Who were you dating? A lot can … Continue reading 1000 and something days ago
The Daily Gemm 