I think that many people would like to think that they are open to change.
Whether or not this is true can be easily tested. See how they react to things not going how they wanted.
It turns out many of us are actually only open to change within the parameters of getting some version of what we want.
We think this way because we think that we know what the best outcome is. To be open to anything else is the equivalent of wanting bad for yourself.
And that is okay, it’s rare that a person wants things to turn out badly.
But if you shift your mindset, things not going as planned can just be unexpected or challenging situations for you to work through, they don’t need to be bad or even good.
When you do this it makes it much easier to manage when things don’t go to plan.
When your life isn’t exactly what one would describe as good, you may find that you’ve developed a fear of things going from bad to worse.
It is this fear that keeps you stuck, stagnant and stops you growing to potentially start living a life that is better than your current circumstances.
From the outside it might seem frustrating that you don’t take action but for you, the person that is experiencing the situation, doing nothing makes prefect sense.
But the problem with doing nothing is that things have no change of getting better.
Sometimes we choose to view life in such a simplistic way that we don’t even consider that something is missing.
You perceive things as good or bad and wrong or right without leaving room for flexibility.
But often the truth lies somewhere in between.
For example, Robin Hood was a thief which is bad but he helped poor people which is good.
Limiting him to one or the other is an over simplistic view that doesn’t accurately portray the full picture.
Sometimes both things can be true.
Most of us have at least one habit that we know is unhelpful, in fact perhaps you can clearly see how at times it hinders your life. However, you choose to do nothing about it.
You’ve accepted the habit as part of who you are instead of it being something that you’re open to changing or even just working on. But mostly it hasn’t caused a big enough problem in your life for you to consider it to be something that needs to change.
Perhaps you’re habit is lateness. You’re always always late everywhere you go to the point where it’s now expected.
Then, one day you being late causes a significant negative implication to your life. You lose out on something important, miss out on money or ruin a relationship.
It’s only then that you truly consider that you might need to work on your punctuality. Up until that point there were no consequences for your lateness, it was simply just an unhelpful habit. But when you lose a job because of it you realise that actually it’s a bad habit because your life has been negatively affected as a result of it.
How often do you honestly say how you feel when you don’t feel particularly good?
It’s fairly easy to talk about how happy you are, how much you’re looking forward to something or how great you feel. But when it comes to saying I feel low, I feel sad or I’m not feeling my best, most of us are much less willing to be open.
Instead you’ll find yourself saying things like ‘I’m fine’ even though you don’t mean it at all. Feeling sad or feeling low isn’t a bad thing, it isn’t something that you have to hide.
And sometimes all you need to feel better is to simply talk about why you don’t feel so great.
We’re often brought up to believe that risk is a bad thing.
But the truth is it depends on the risk.
Packing up and moving to a new city could be considered risky but it’s not a bad thing. On the flipside, gambling away your savings hoping to hit the big time is risky and it’s not a particularly good idea.
I think when it comes to taking risks you know whether it’s ‘good’ or ‘bad’ based on how you’ll feel if it doesn’t work out.
When the risk not panning out means your safety at risk it’s probably not something worth pursing. Let’s take the gambling example.
If it turns out well you could walk away with more than your annual salary which is enticing. However, if we look at what happens if things go wrong you’ll realise that you gain nothing. If you gamble away thousands of pounds you don’t leave the experience haven’t learnt a lesson.
Those kinds of risks aren’t worth taking.
But when you try something new, push yourself and get out of your comfort zone, even if it doesn’t work out as planned, you’ve given yourself the opportunity to grow and develop into the kind of person you want to be.
I think this statement is true for a lot of people.
We all know what we need to do in order to reach our goals or get things done. It’s the doing it part that hold us back.
You’re working on a project and maybe you spend a morning planning and preparing what to work on for the week ahead. But then when it comes down to it you’re scrolling through meme accounts and reading the lyrics to your favourite rap songs.
You’ve got good thoughts, you know what needs to be done.
You’ve got bad habits and you often find yourself procrastinating until it’s too late for things to go well.
There’s a discord between what you know and what you do.
You have to find a way to bring your habits into harmony with your thoughts.
That’s one way to transform your life.
Arizona Birkenstocks are a classic sandal, there is no doubt about it. They’re ergonomic footwear designed to mould to the shape of your foot over time.
There around £60 which is not particularly expensive for a good quality pair of sandals. However, when there are similar versions for a quarter of the price it can be tempting to go for the cheaper version.
But the thing about the cheaper version is that it has a few things missing. There’s PVC/PU instead of leather, they’re not as comfortable and they show signs of wear much sooner.
They’re a bad version of a good thing.
That’s the sacrifice you make when you’re constantly looking for the cheaper option.