Figuring it out as you go

So often we think that we have to have everything worked out.

We convince ourselves that an idea is not enough that we have to have everything mapped out from A to Z and all the steps in between.

But life will never go exactly as you plan, no matter how hard you try to control things.

I’ve learnt that the more you try to control things the less prepared you are for the unexpected. Granted it’s good to have some kind of plan and not just be like a boat with no oars. But you have no control over the flow of the waves.

The optimum circumstance is to be adaptable and often that means being able to figure things out as you go because you can’t plan for every possibility.

 

An alternative to seeking reassurance

It was either Seth Godin or Simon Sinek that once said that you shouldn’t seek reassurance because it’s something you can never have enough of.

I don’t think I fully understood the statement until I observed it in others and in myself.

Reassurance creates a temporary fence of stability that lets you know things are fine but it doesn’t last. It’s like a cloud of smoke that will eventually disperse until there’s nothing left and then you just end up back where you started, seeking reassurance once more.

And so instead of seeking reassurance,

Why not practise being adaptable, embracing uncertainty and getting out of your comfort zone?