What do you know about you?

I think it’s important to get to know yourself. Not just on a surface level but right down deep to the core. Not just your likes and dislikes but your beliefs and why you do the things you do. Something I’ve always focused on is behaviour. When you find yourself doing and saying things or … Continue reading What do you know about you? →

What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?

Just as ‘you’re not you when you’re hungry’ is the same way you’re not you when you’re worried. A person that worries chronically may end up having sleep problems, self-harming and developing fidget habits like pulling at their hair. Those kinds of behaviours often end up overshadowing a persons core self and then others fall … Continue reading What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self? →

You can’t bypass the brunt

I've learnt a lot by simply looking at my own behaviour and assessing what does and doesn't work. That's a large part of what I write and something that begins as why do I always xyz turns into me learning about a psychological theory, brain stuff and people stuff. Recently I've been learning through practical … Continue reading You can’t bypass the brunt →

What’s the use in making plans

It always feels good to start projects and make plans (at least it does for me anyway). But what's the use in making plans if you don't follow through. That really good idea you have could actually be something in the physical reality if you're willing to bring it to life. To want and do … Continue reading What’s the use in making plans →

The blame game

You don't have to play, you can always opt out. I used to be the sort of person who would blame other people for the misfortunes of my life. Not in an explicit way but I felt that I needed certain people in my life to change in order for me to feel better in … Continue reading The blame game →

What do you need?

In moments of stress and panic it's important to know what it is that you need. It could be a drink of water, to take a walk, to stretch your body, deep breaths or even someone to talk to. The great thing about knowing what you need is that when these moments come up they … Continue reading What do you need? →

The feeling is not the problem

I think this is what they call a break through. Perhaps we should look at situations from a neutral perspective. The feeling you have towards any situation is not the problem and that is the mistake that is so often made. We get so carries away by how dreadful it feels and sometimes that can … Continue reading The feeling is not the problem →

Stop complaining and do something

Everybody complains every now and then but if that's all you do people will soon get bored. When you complain, you're identifying a problem and so the next step is finding the solution. Everyone goes through stages of wanting to change an element of their life but if you're not willing to do anything about … Continue reading Stop complaining and do something →

Acknowledgments

Growing up I don't think I ever read the acknowledgements of many books. I suppose, I probably just thought that's nothing to do with me, it's for the people being acknowledged. But recently I started thinking about who I'd acknowledge if I ever wrote a book and it was quite fun. I sat and asked … Continue reading Acknowledgments →

Mind the gap

That's what's painted at the platforms edge. I suppose now is the best time to add the disclaimer that this isn't about jumping. The message painted on the platforms edge can be used in conversations about the distance between where you are and where you want to be. The gap is the space between the … Continue reading Mind the gap →