Figuring it out as you go

So often we think that we have to have everything worked out. We convince ourselves that an idea is not enough that we have to have everything mapped out from A to Z and all the steps in between. But life will never go exactly as you plan, no matter how hard you try to … Continue reading Figuring it out as you go →

Other peoples stuff

When you interact with someone that is in a bad mood or is angry you might find at the end of it that you feel bad too. That's what happens when you take on other peoples stuff. It might seem that when someone directs anger and frustration towards you that you have to take it … Continue reading Other peoples stuff →

Changing the rules

In day to day life you might be surprised at how many rules you follow. Things that you are or aren't supposed to do or say? Some of them are necessary and help us function well as a society whilst others just restrict us. Some are inflicted by others but some we force upon ourselves. … Continue reading Changing the rules →

Comments worth commenting on

When it comes to race related comments, what's worth commenting on? Is it worth the energy it takes to call someone out and explain to them why what they said is slightly (or maybe even highly) concerning? If it goes well it would probably be worth it but if the other person is adamant that … Continue reading Comments worth commenting on →

Putting it into practice

If you have an idea of what could be done or what is possible, would you be willing to put it into practice? It's really easy to talk the talk full of excitement and enthusiasm. But actually doing the things you talk about is a whole other story. It's easy to give advice when things … Continue reading Putting it into practice →

When you don’t feel like it

So here's the truth, you're not going to always feel like doing the thing that needs to be done. And if you wait until you feel like doing it, it may never get done. You have to find a way to commit to doing the work wholeheartedly so that you're not reliant on how you … Continue reading When you don’t feel like it →

Giving the people what they want

A few days ago, I wrote a post that did well numbers wise and I knew it would. It was the kind of thing that people like to read whilst also being useful. I don't advocate for writing for people as you'll never find your own voice or style that way. But in my previous … Continue reading Giving the people what they want →

Unexpected but needed

I recently had an unexpected conversation that I didn't expect to have yet at the same time it was exactly what I needed. It can be difficult to let people know that you need a little bit of reassurance once in a while. However, sometimes maybe it's not even really reassurance but instead just to … Continue reading Unexpected but needed →

Small-scale spontaneity

So often we run from spontaneity because it doesn't allow us to have as much control as we'd like. We tell ourselves that it's the wrong decision or that we need to give it more thought or maybe just say no instead of yes. But the beauty of spontaneity is that it opens us up … Continue reading Small-scale spontaneity →

A man, his hat and my bubble

There I was on a Tuesday morning on my usual commute to work engrossed in my phone, writing a blog post with my headphones in. That's how I often spend my journey to and from work engrossed in my thoughts, my phone or looking out of the window. But one day a man's hat fell … Continue reading A man, his hat and my bubble →