I recently found myself with a problem to solve that felt difficult. It was as if the more I tried to solve it, the more challenging it became and it felt so serious. But then, I tried lightening up and looking at things from a different perspective, and I managed to find a little humour … Continue reading Difficult problems and light-hearted solutions
Reflecting on your 2022 plans
When you look back on the plans you made for 2022, how do they match up with how your year actually went? I intentionally made very flexible plans for this year and put my real focus on a theme. Of the 12 things on my list I managed to do half of them without even … Continue reading Reflecting on your 2022 plans
How to resolve a misunderstanding?
When it comes to resolving misunderstandings things can easily go wrong. But there are some things that can be done to try and get the best possible outcome. The person that misunderstood needs to be able to openly admit that they perceived things wrong. The person on the receiving end needs to accept that the … Continue reading How to resolve a misunderstanding?
Don't be so caught up in maintaining harmony that you spend your life putting your needs aside to please and appease other people.
The necessary boring bits
Sometimes the work required to produce the desired outcome is uninteresting or feels like a waste of time. Choosing not to do this work leads to a result that isn't as good as it could be. And so you have to make the choice between doing work that will pay off in the long run … Continue reading The necessary boring bits
The ‘Do It Now’ day
When you're not ready to handle something the best thing to do is to put it aside. But sometimes when you leave things for much longer than necessary and you're no longer taking the time to figure out how to manage a challenge problem, you're just avoiding it. Often once you start avoiding something it … Continue reading The ‘Do It Now’ day
The DIY pick me up guide
It's currently the season of dark mornings, dark evenings, cold temperatures and bleak weather. In these conditions It's easy for morale to dip and to find yourself feeling blue. And when that happens it's useful to have some idea of how to help yourself. There's nothing wrong with feeling down every now and then but … Continue reading The DIY pick me up guide
It’s okay to get it wrong
When you first get comfortable with speaking up for yourself, you might take it to the extremes. In that moment you might be unknowingly responding on behalf of all the other times you didn't speak up so it could look like an over reaction. And perhaps in hindsight, you'd have done things differently. But, it's … Continue reading It’s okay to get it wrong
Learning to be yourself
It's a little bit like playing dress up. You try things out, see what works and feels most like you. You keep those things that feel best and put the rest aside. People can end up going decades without knowing what it's like to be themselves because their sense of self and what it means … Continue reading Learning to be yourself
You can’t control the outcome
In a recent interaction, the response made me realise that despite carefully picking my words, there was a misunderstanding. I felt like I had over explained, dotted all the i's and crossed all the t's but somehow the other person didn't understand what I was trying to say. It had me stumped. In hindsight, it … Continue reading You can’t control the outcome