Why you shouldn’t focus on what you don’t want

In a book a read a while back it explained why we should focus on what we do want instead of what we don't want. It gave the example of someone telling you not to think of a purple elephant and how despite being told not to that is exactly where the mind wanders. That … Continue reading Why you shouldn’t focus on what you don’t want →

Being professional and moving the benchmark

When you're a kid you think that 21 is grown up. You think that by that age you'll have everything figured out, that you'll have met your life partner and that you'll suddenly be this proper adult with a career... But then you get to that age and you don't quite feel how you thought … Continue reading Being professional and moving the benchmark →

Unexpected ideal circumstances

It's much easier to tell yourself a story about the worst case scenario. 'Of course this won't work out...' But even in those cases we often have this picture in our mind of how we want things to really turn out. We're just too scared to believe in the possibility of something good happening for … Continue reading Unexpected ideal circumstances →