Policing perfect

If you go on social media you’ll find an abundant amount of people policing ‘perfect’. They’ll criticise, comment and assume as though people aren’t human beings.

But the thing is, you can never please everyone and you will make mistakes.

And as great as the internet is, nobody needs 4658 strangers criticising them for something they said or did, even if it was wrong. Ganging up on someone is never a good way to get them to change their ways.

The internet and social media in particular is a great place to practice ‘just because you can, doesn’t mean you should’. Just because you can send a comment telling someone off for doing something that you don’t think they should have done, doesn’t mean you should.

Better yet ask yourself ‘is this useful or helpful?’, ‘what will I achieve by doing this?’.

Chances are you might find it’s actually better to say nothing at all.

Survival mode and everyday life

I recently tried something new and the outcome was not what I had anticipated it would be.

In these kinds of situations our minds will start to tell stories of why we should stick with what we know and the dangers of exploring outside of that.

You might be in a mental space where you can get past that but if not I have a useful reminder.

The part of your brain that is telling you to stay safe and stick with what you know is coming from a place of survival mode. But you don’t need to apply a survival mode mentality to things like voicing your opinion, being rejected or having your first Unagi roll.

New things are good for us, they help us develop and expand which in turn allows us to get more out of this human experience.

You might not be who you think you are

From a young age we start to develop an identity, a sense of self.

This is influenced by a variety of factors such as family, friends, books, music, religion, TV and film.

And so we go around living our lives with an identity of who we are. But it’s often much more complex than that.

As humans, having a sense of self is important to our development because life is easier when you know yourself.

But in a rush to reach that knowing we often end up skipping the pivotal exploration period of really delving in and asking the question of who am I?

So we settle for what influences us a combination of what we see and what people tell us to be. We end up thinking that that is who we are when their is a whole other self to be explored.

Sweet Home Alabama: The Human Life Protection Act (House Bill 314)

So I’m sure you’ve heard about the Alabama Abortion ban (also known as House Bill 314) passed on May 15th 2019 called the ‘Human Life Protection Act’.

This act bans abortions in all cases (including rape and incest) aside from ‘where abortion is necessary in order to prevent a serious health risk to the unborn child’s mother’. Abortion will become illegal in November 2019 and those that commit or assist with the act will face years in prison.

Now on hearing this I couldn’t help but think of the fact that self-induced abortions have always been a thing and it’s likely that they will have a resurgence.

Overall I just have a lot of questions…

In what ways will banning abortion benefit society?

Will being forced to have baby that was a result of rape cause further trauma?

Is there expected to be an increase in women giving their babies up for adoption?

Is the ban a way to encourage people to practice safer sex because there will now be higher risk?

Will people that don’t want children change their attitudes towards sex?

How does being forced to carry a pregnancy to full-term effect the mother?

Is this ban expected to significantly increase the population?

Will money be put into supporting these children being born?

I understand that abortions weren’t always legal but what this Human Protection Act has done is take away a right. It’s saying ‘I don’t care whether you want to have this choice or not. You have no choice and if you try to do something about it you’ll be put in prison’.

It’s being presented as ‘abortion is murder etc…’ but I don’t get the impression that this ban was created out of love for zygotes.

The unfortunate thing about these sorts of cases is that the 2 sides are rarely looking at things from the same point.

I doubt anyone in support of the ban will argue with points like We want to police women’s reproductive rights and we don’t believe that they should have a choice in whether or not they have a child’.

And the people against the ban won’t have points like We support murder and believe that women should be able to choose to kill their unborn children’.

Neither of the points above are what has been presented on each side of the argument, yet this is the view that each side have of each other.