When you feel like you're making progress having to then take a step back is a big deal. It feels like you've wasted your efforts but more importantly time that you can't get back. But if you change your perspective, those steps back could actually be a good thing. Perhaps you were heading down an … Continue reading Two steps back
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Dealing with the unexpected
No matter how much you plan and prepare you always encounter unexpected situations. In the moment it can be easy to end up feeling overwhelmed after all this is not what you wanted, it's not what you planned for. And so you have two choices. The first is to get caught up in the unexpected … Continue reading Dealing with the unexpected
Overstepping boundaries
I wrote about boundaries in a recent post but upon reflection I had more to add. Sometimes even when you are aware of a persons boundaries and you know it has nothing to do with you, you still try to overstep the mark. A person will do it in small or subtle ways because they … Continue reading Overstepping boundaries
Saying what you mean
There's no need to skirt around the issue. Being clear with your words might seem like a simple thing to do. Yet if you reflect on conversations you've had and the things you've said recently you might find times when you haven't been so clear. It might have been because you weren't really thinking in … Continue reading Saying what you mean
Internalising boundaries
You can learn a lot from someone by simply observing them. I recently noticed in a particular relationship that the other person had very clear boundaries. It wasn't anything that had been explicitly stated but through this persons actions it was very clear what they were and were not open to. Sometimes a persons boundaries … Continue reading Internalising boundaries
Choosing not to work
The thought of spending your day doing nothing productive or nothing that adds to the end goal might seem like a waste of a day. Surely, laying in bed or sitting wondering about life is of no value in the long-run. It might seem useless at times but I think it's valuable. Taking a break … Continue reading Choosing not to work
Waiting for a cue
Sometimes when there's something you want to say the easiest way to bring it up is to wait for a 'cue'. My dictionary defines a cue as 'An action or event that is a signal for somebody to do something'. In this case the thing to do is bring up a topic that is difficult … Continue reading Waiting for a cue
Exciting possibilities
When it comes to the exciting possibilities of life, how often do you allow yourself to experience them. Often we end up looking from afar and think about how great it would be if it happened to us. The truth is in many cases we're actually not ready for the good stuff to happen. It's … Continue reading Exciting possibilities
The difficult truth
Sometimes the hardest part is facing it. Once you accept it, you can make a plan for what do next. That for many is exciting. However, facing the difficult truth is the necessary first step. You do it by acknowledging and understanding the situation. In some cases it will involve admitting the role that you … Continue reading The difficult truth
Dream big
When thinking about what you want to do in the future, dream big. You don't have to be realistic and confine yourself to what you think is possible based on where you are in life right now. In ten years time you'll have more knowledge and experience so think of what is possible for future … Continue reading Dream big