I used to be the kind of person that would internalise everything. For example, if I didn't get the job I applied for it was because I wasn't good enough and not that they had 7 excellent candidates and only one role to fill so not everyone could be a winner. I could give countless … Continue reading Not being good enough
Tag: development
The way that things should be
We often go around with this idea in our heads of the way that things should be, in some ways it's a good thing. When you know what you want you're much less likely to let life pass you by. On the other hand when you're so fixated on the way that things should be … Continue reading The way that things should be
Why it’s so hard to change
You spend a large amount of your formative years trying to figure yourself out. You're favourite colour, what you like to eat and the kinds of movies you like to watch. But it goes much deeper than that. Perhaps it's what political party you want to support, your career path, whether you want to get … Continue reading Why it’s so hard to change
With an open mind
That thing that you're not interested in, that you don't think is for you, it might be one day. It takes time for the mind to open up to things, especially when they're different or new. This could apply to the music you listen to, shows you watch or even the food that you eat. … Continue reading With an open mind
Do you really want to do it?
When someone comes to you, asking some thing of you, how do you respond? Do you simply think about whether or not you want to do it? Do you worry about how the other person will react if you say no? So often we grow up inadvertently being taught to people please and unless we … Continue reading Do you really want to do it?
Can I do better?
A question I'm learning to ask myself without judgement? It's easy to judge yourself and in doing so you're not likely to answer the question in a way that is helpful. You'll be likely to find yourself caught up in a woe is me story-line. Your answer will be something like: 'Well, I'm trying and … Continue reading Can I do better?
A new version of you
It's not always easy to show people that you've changed. Especially when on the outside you look exactly the same. For example, how do you show someone that you've developed new neurological pathways? For the most part when you change, you do it for you. Although on the other side of it you might feel … Continue reading A new version of you
Embracing temporary things
Wake up, wake up! The world is changing. Over the past 10 years or so I've noticed a big change in the way that people work. Self-employment is on the rise along with jobs in the gig economy. Perhaps as a society we believe in ourselves more or we've opened up to the idea that … Continue reading Embracing temporary things
Don’t look back
...in anger (this has nothing to do with Oasis but I do love that song!). You can spend your whole life working on improving aspects of your life. Imagine you've always struggled with your career and finding something that you like that pays enough that you can live a life you're happy with you. Imagine … Continue reading Don’t look back
Comfortable or helpful
You can't always have both. So it turns out that the thing that brings you the most comfort might also be incredibly unhelpful to your personal development. It could even be the main thing holding you back from living your dream life, a life of bliss. But you get so caught up in the comfort … Continue reading Comfortable or helpful
The Daily Gemm 