It’s a two way thing

When someone doesn't want what you're offering. In a post called generous projection, I wrote about how when people try to help, they might just be projecting. I wrote it with a focus on the receiver but what about when you're the one trying to help. We often say things like I'm here if you wanna … Continue reading It’s a two way thing →

Take a moment

A reaction rooted in anger is one you're likely to regret. Anything that builds up has to have a release eventually. And if you've tried to release or resolve it to no avail then it's important that you do find a way. Bursts of anger and outrage often come unexpectedly and end up being directed … Continue reading Take a moment →

Finding solutions

When you're so focused and set on finding a solution to a problem it probably won't come to you. The answer will go over your head because you're putting too much pressure on it. Imagine you have a container of water, if you put too much pressure on the water it'll go up (as in … Continue reading Finding solutions →

In a ‘say nothing’ kinda mood

And sometimes the best thing is to say nothing at all. Because if someone isn't willing to listen but is willing to argue and disagree you're probably wasting your time and energy. But other times the reason to say nothing is because you can't quite find the words. You're talking in phrases, stumbling over words … Continue reading In a ‘say nothing’ kinda mood →

Have I said this before?

Umm, actually that's kind of the point. I used to think it was weird that people I followed online were always saying the same thing. I'd read a post or watch a video and think 'you've said that before'. And they had. But then I gave it more thought and realised that it makes sense … Continue reading Have I said this before? →

Habits of your childhood self

For some people there are aspects of themselves that were developed in childhood as coping mechanisms in order to feel comfortable or safe. And sometimes those habits or behaviour that were developed during childhood become so familiar and comfortable to us that we carry them through into adulthood. But the thing is how you coped … Continue reading Habits of your childhood self →

Why I don’t rely on being inspired to write

Some days are easier than others. I have days when the words pour out with such ease that it can be hard to keep up. But I also have days when I'll open my laptop to write and after 30 minutes I've gone back and forth on the same few sentences and I have a … Continue reading Why I don’t rely on being inspired to write →

Here’s an idea

I've been thinking about trying something new. The idea of a podcast appeals to me for various reasons, one of which is that it'll help me to use my voice more and give me a space to speak about things I don't usually talk about. And it reminds me about why I started blogging in … Continue reading Here’s an idea →

The push-back

Because every action has an equal and opposite reaction. I've been using the term push-back for a while. I use it to refer to how we react to negative/un-ideal circumstances. But not any reaction just the specific ones often done when our emotions are heightened and we're angry or frustrated. Imagine you're a kid and … Continue reading The push-back →

Talk but don’t dwell

Often when we talk about difficult things we get so caught up in the story that we end up dwelling on it. Sometimes to the point where we end up reliving it and our bodies remember exactly how it felt. It could be a time you felt rejected, overwhelmed or ignored. It's not difficult to … Continue reading Talk but don’t dwell →