The idea of things not lasting, of things being temporary is often seen as a bad thing. It's seen as a failure. We get caught up in this idea that if something is good it should last and if it doesn't last then something was wrong. I think the problem is that we find it … Continue reading Temporary things
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Creating a safe space
When it comes to opening up, do you know what you need in order to feel safe? A starting point is to ask yourself 'Will what I am about to say be handled with care?' I've learnt that people often hold their challenges dear. Even if it's not deeply affecting them now they still require … Continue reading Creating a safe space
Understanding others
The easiest perspective to understand a situation from is your own. If you look back on past experiences you can get a good idea of why you respond the way you do, what gets you enraged and perhaps what helps you stay calm. But a helpful perspective to try and understand is the perspective of … Continue reading Understanding others
Disappointment and desires
Expectations can be an interesting thing. They often span from our desires and wants or even our imagination. But they will also leave you disappointed. As much as it can be good to hold people to a standard, it's also important to ensure that you aren't creating this whole other person in your mind of … Continue reading Disappointment and desires
As easy as possible
When it comes to the things we do in our day to day life, I think it's important to make it as easy as possible. If you want to read more, have a book on your bedside table instead of tighly slotted into your bookshelf. If you want to spend more time with friends, make … Continue reading As easy as possible
Keeping up with strangers
Social media makes it really easy to keep up with everything going on in the world around us. From crises happening across the globe to personal details about people we've never met. And on an average day for many, I don't think I'd be wrong in assuming that little thought goes into it. How often … Continue reading Keeping up with strangers
Welcoming normal
I think what many are craving is a sense of 'normal', the way things once were. If you're lucky, normal might have been just fine but it's worth acknowledging that that's not the case for everyone. Of course the easy thing to do would be nothing and just let things go back to what they … Continue reading Welcoming normal
Something to look forward to
This is one of the easiest ways to feel better about life. Instead of gazing into the abyss of nothingness wondering what the future will hold, you can set yourself up with something to look forward to. It could be a catch up with a friend in a few days time or a holiday a … Continue reading Something to look forward to
Making a change vs Doing nothing
When making a difficult decision a good place to start is weighing up the pros and cons. Take some time and really think about it. Let's say for example you were deciding whether or not move to a new city. The pros might be things like getting a fresh start, more opportunities and challenging yourself. … Continue reading Making a change vs Doing nothing
Reflecting on the past 3 months
The past few months have been something none of us could have ever anticipated. It's been challenging, sad, stressful and at times overwhelming. Times like this are perfect for reflection because we've all been reminded how short life is and how tomorrow isn't promised. Our day to day have all changed in some way. We've … Continue reading Reflecting on the past 3 months