In some situations you might find that that there is a discord between what you want and the outcome you get. If you're unsure if this applies to you, think about some of your recent encounters with people. What did you want? What was the outcome? Were you happy with the way things turned out? … Continue reading Identifying the discord
Tag: people
The right people
A message I'm always keen to get across is that as much as it's important to open up, what matters even more is that you do it with the right people. For some that may be obvious but others might find themselves wondering who qualifies as 'right'. It really depends on the individual. However, there … Continue reading The right people
Be kind
One of the easiest things you can do is to be kind. It can come in many forms but I think it is often the smallest things that have the most impact. It can be easy to think that you need to go above and beyond and make some kind of grand gesture but that's … Continue reading Be kind
What do you want to be known for?
When Seth Godin answered this question he said ' I would like to be known by what the people who have learned from me have taught other people'. I think this was said on an episode of Tim Bilyeus' podcast, Impact Theory. If you're somebody that creates or puts stuff out there, I think it's … Continue reading What do you want to be known for?
For those that refuse to listen
Some people will never truly hear you when you speak no matter how hard you try. In those circumstances the solution is never to try harder. You might think that the harder you try they'll eventually come around and hear you out. But the thing is some people aren't interested in being wrong. Some people … Continue reading For those that refuse to listen
Don’t believe you’re missing out
You've probably had the experience of feeling totally fine but as soon as you see or hear about what other people are doing (or have done) suddenly you feel a sense of lack. It's like if you spend your Friday night at home watching a movie and painting your nails but the next week everyone … Continue reading Don’t believe you’re missing out
Temporary things
The idea of things not lasting, of things being temporary is often seen as a bad thing. It's seen as a failure. We get caught up in this idea that if something is good it should last and if it doesn't last then something was wrong. I think the problem is that we find it … Continue reading Temporary things
Creating a safe space
When it comes to opening up, do you know what you need in order to feel safe? A starting point is to ask yourself 'Will what I am about to say be handled with care?' I've learnt that people often hold their challenges dear. Even if it's not deeply affecting them now they still require … Continue reading Creating a safe space
Disappointment and desires
Expectations can be an interesting thing. They often span from our desires and wants or even our imagination. But they will also leave you disappointed. As much as it can be good to hold people to a standard, it's also important to ensure that you aren't creating this whole other person in your mind of … Continue reading Disappointment and desires
A convincing sales person
Anyone can make a living selling things if they're good enough at driving sales. It's not about being an 'influencer', having the most followers or being the loudest. Sometimes it's about having something that people want and presenting it to them in a way where they value it enough to buy it. Yet we somehow … Continue reading A convincing sales person
The Daily Gemm 