Sometimes we trick ourselves into accepting things that we don't want. We make excuses and convince ourselves that we're so totally content with our current circumstances. This happens for a variety of reasons but a major factor is our core beliefs. If you don't think there is something better out there for you then will … Continue reading Self-deception and the power of checking in
Tag: life
The way that things should be
We often go around with this idea in our heads of the way that things should be, in some ways it's a good thing. When you know what you want you're much less likely to let life pass you by. On the other hand when you're so fixated on the way that things should be … Continue reading The way that things should be
How to figure out what you want?
This is a topic that has been on many peoples minds mainly because we've all had much more time to think about our lives over the past few months. For a lot of people what they want is actually what they think they want because it comes from other people. When you're constantly being told … Continue reading How to figure out what you want?
Don’t believe you’re missing out
You've probably had the experience of feeling totally fine but as soon as you see or hear about what other people are doing (or have done) suddenly you feel a sense of lack. It's like if you spend your Friday night at home watching a movie and painting your nails but the next week everyone … Continue reading Don’t believe you’re missing out
Justifying rest
When you feel like you need to escape or getaway it often has nothing to do with your surroundings. Although you may find yourself wanting to book a trip or get a change of scenery in many cases it's actually your mind that needs a rest. You might think you need a holiday when in … Continue reading Justifying rest
Temporary things
The idea of things not lasting, of things being temporary is often seen as a bad thing. It's seen as a failure. We get caught up in this idea that if something is good it should last and if it doesn't last then something was wrong. I think the problem is that we find it … Continue reading Temporary things
Creating a safe space
When it comes to opening up, do you know what you need in order to feel safe? A starting point is to ask yourself 'Will what I am about to say be handled with care?' I've learnt that people often hold their challenges dear. Even if it's not deeply affecting them now they still require … Continue reading Creating a safe space
Understanding others
The easiest perspective to understand a situation from is your own. If you look back on past experiences you can get a good idea of why you respond the way you do, what gets you enraged and perhaps what helps you stay calm. But a helpful perspective to try and understand is the perspective of … Continue reading Understanding others
Disappointment and desires
Expectations can be an interesting thing. They often span from our desires and wants or even our imagination. But they will also leave you disappointed. As much as it can be good to hold people to a standard, it's also important to ensure that you aren't creating this whole other person in your mind of … Continue reading Disappointment and desires
As easy as possible
When it comes to the things we do in our day to day life, I think it's important to make it as easy as possible. If you want to read more, have a book on your bedside table instead of tighly slotted into your bookshelf. If you want to spend more time with friends, make … Continue reading As easy as possible
The Daily Gemm 