I used to be the kind of person that would internalise everything. For example, if I didn't get the job I applied for it was because I wasn't good enough and not that they had 7 excellent candidates and only one role to fill so not everyone could be a winner. I could give countless … Continue reading Not being good enough
Tag: growth
The worst possible thing
What do you do when the worst possible thing happens. And by worst possible thing I mean something unanticipated, something that you didn't plan for that throws you off course. The common and perhaps most easiest way to react is panic. Like a sort of 'Oh my goodness, what I am I gonna do, everything … Continue reading The worst possible thing
For those that refuse to listen
Some people will never truly hear you when you speak no matter how hard you try. In those circumstances the solution is never to try harder. You might think that the harder you try they'll eventually come around and hear you out. But the thing is some people aren't interested in being wrong. Some people … Continue reading For those that refuse to listen
Learning to open up
One of the biggest reasons to open up is that it helps you realise that you aren't alone. So often we live our lives as if we are the only one who has faced a difficulty, felt lonely, been rejected, felt lost or was unhappy with the way they looked. We end up holding it … Continue reading Learning to open up
Unexpected and interesting
Language is pretty important. What we say and the words we choose to use can be impacted by how we choose the world or even change how we see the world. An example of this that I practice is not referring to things as bad or negative. Instead I'll use words like unexpected, interesting, challenging, … Continue reading Unexpected and interesting
Doing it wrong
If I aksed someone for advice on how to make this site better, I have a pretty good idea of what they would say. The first thing is that I should use pictures to accompany my posts as a way to draw in readers. The second is that I should promote my content on social … Continue reading Doing it wrong
Making the case for curiosity
I think the idea of being curious is something often associated with childhood. You think of being at a young age where you have lots of questions and so you ask them not really thinking about whether or not you should. But then we get older, for a large majority of people asking questions is … Continue reading Making the case for curiosity
Temporary things
The idea of things not lasting, of things being temporary is often seen as a bad thing. It's seen as a failure. We get caught up in this idea that if something is good it should last and if it doesn't last then something was wrong. I think the problem is that we find it … Continue reading Temporary things
Understanding others
The easiest perspective to understand a situation from is your own. If you look back on past experiences you can get a good idea of why you respond the way you do, what gets you enraged and perhaps what helps you stay calm. But a helpful perspective to try and understand is the perspective of … Continue reading Understanding others
Gets better with time
It's something you'll have no doubt read or heard countless times but it's true, some things really do get better with time. Maybe you're a teenager (or even an adult) feeling like you don't belong, you've experienced a harsh rejection or you have a physical injury. In the height of it, you might not be … Continue reading Gets better with time
The Daily Gemm 