Whatever is going on in my life will be woven through the words I write.
At times, I’m like a floatie being pulled and swayed in all kinds of directions. But I’m easily influenced and inspired.
From the ages of 16-18 I studied textiles, discovered Seth Godin and read a few books by Dickens.
That trio of things heavily influenced my writing at the time through the language in used. I can see it now but I was also aware of it at the time.
And as time has passed new things have influenced the way I write things like music, nature, relationships etc.
I still have my core style but my choice of words and what I want them to evoke has developed and grown with along with me.
For this blog my writing is heavily inspired by my themes of overcoming fear, self exploration, dream life etc
But I’m also still influenced by Seth Godin after all these years (I’m now in my twenties). I’m also influenced by things that move me emotionally, I’m a feelings person, who has kept a journal for more than a decade so it’s a big part of who I am. I can’t help but let that part of me pour out when I write.
I’d like to think that my influences and inspirations come through but it’s not down to me if they show or not.
That’s for you to decide.
Remaining open to the uncertainty of life has many benefits but a reduction in stress and anxiety are definitely ones worth making a note of.
And so when life doesn’t go to plan it’s okay to embrace uncertainty and dream a new dream. It’s much easier to go with the flow of life than to resist it as they say what you resist persists and I agree.
You might find yourself straying far from where think you want to be or where you thought you’d end up but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad place to be.
Different, unexpected or surprising aren’t equal to bad.
An important step in achieving the dream life is tending to it. Its like with gardening, you need to do more than just plant seeds. You need to space them the right distance apart, water them or maybe give them something to grow against.
A dream you do nothing with is likely to just remain a dream. But I think by tending to it you’re more likely to actually get it in some way or another.
And maybe that’s a scary thought, actually attaining what you truly want. But what do you have to lose, worst case scenario you end up back where you started with the knowledge that you took a risk to make it happen because you were willing to try.
I think that in searching for stability you don’t give yourself enough room to explore and take risks. You align yourself in things that feel safe and reliable then convince yourself that it’s what you truly desire.
The pursuit of stability is often about fear and control. As human beings one of our core needs is survival which is linked to staying safe.
But in pursing something that doesn’t have outcome certainty it brings up risk of jeopardising safety and therefore survival.
Perhaps you wanted to make art for a living, but you chose to be a HR assistant instead. The idea of making and selling your work for a living has risk because it might not work. What if you don’t make enough money, you can’t pay your bills, you have to move back with your parents or move with friends, you get evicted, you have to sell all your possessions blah, blah blah
The inner monologue is amazing at getting carried away. You can go from one small inconvenience to thinking your entire life is over. And I think that there is a string need for an awareness for that so that we don’t end up listening to that voice.
You don’t want to end up wishing you’d taken a chance in your twenties, thirties or forties because you decided to live your life in search of stability.
But you don’t have to go in the opposite direction either. Go for what brings you joy, what you care about or what interests you.
Imagine that you could order a life refresh online and it would come in the post, perhaps same day amazon prime delivery. Maybe it would come in a sachet with fun 80s graphics on the cover.
You tear across the top, pour it into a glass of water, stir and drink.
It’d put you to sleep with the promise that you’d wake up to a new life or perhaps just a fresh perspective on your current life.
I think we often underestimate the power of perspective. You’re new life is here if you’re willing to think differently, to think another way.
I worry about sounding airy fairy when I come out with statements like that but the power of perspective is very real.
We all have at some point changed our thoughts and opinions on particular topics, looked at them from a different angle and realised that sometimes we have the opportunity to grow and think differently.
Even if it contradicts the way you used to think.
There’s a quote about having to leave things behind in order to move forward that I quite like because it’s something I believe. Yet growing up and still sometimes now, I find myself caught between where I am and where I want to be.
I’ll blame that on the fact that I was born a dreamer
It’s easy to get caught up in routines, work, family, friends, romance and expectations even when we know that there is something different or something more that is available to us.
And sometimes it’s the newness of change that we fear because there’s comfort in familiarity that has nothing to do with how good or bad a situation is.
So we stay stagnant and stick with what we know. But that part of you that knows more is out there grows hungry and you end up feeling unfulfilled with your current life.
Sometimes despite getting to this point you still feel unable to move forward.
Something has to give.
Somehow you start to let go and slowly but surely you start to move into the life that you’ve always wanted to live.
The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
2 Corinthians 5:17
In between listening to podcasts, laughing and reviewing information I got thinking about my book.
The book I believed I’d write when I was 9, the book I wanted to write at 15, the book I thought about starting last summer.
I really do think I could write a book even though I’m often daunted by the thought of it. It’ll be somewhere between self-help, social science and mystery.
Sometimes I think I haven’t lived enough to start writing a book but then again is there ever really a right time to start anything.
I know the answer.
The last thing I want to do is be that person wanting the same things I want now in 20 years time because I was too scared or lazy to pursue them.
I think I might start my book this summer.
It’s a question worth asking and I’d go so far as to call it mandatory for anyone that puts out content online. Whether you’re a blogger, podcaster, writer, social media influencer, youtuber, IGTVer etc.
Having an intention or some sort of direction will be incredibly beneficial.
It helps you figure out what you want to put out, the kind of opportunities you seek and the kind you’re happy to turn down.
On a random Sunday morning a couple weeks back I got thinking about The Daily Gemm and all that it could be. So now I have some long-term plans for this site outside of just posting daily.
It started with me asking myself what I want to be known for on this site. Things outside of consistency and being a writer. I came up with things like storytelling and self help/exploration/discovery.
And so now I’m figuring out how to bring more of that into what I do.
If you could plan a day in your dream life what would it include and how much does it differ from how you currently live.
Use it as a journal prompt or just something to day dream about. I’ve been thinking a lot about my dream life recently and there are a few things that I plan to do over the next 6 to 9 months to really get things rolling.
One of my most limiting qualities is that I’m a creature of comfort, I’m not as much of a go-getter as I’d like to be which is why my life is much less than it could be.
But I’m also an optimist and a dreamer, I hold the belief that my dream life is possible.
Anyway enough about me, the point I wanted to make today is that the life you dream about is feasible.
Perhaps I say that because my own dream life is so simple. A few things that are part of my dream life are writing, being by the coast or countryside and making things with my hands whether that is textile art or i decide to take up carpentry I have no idea.
People often talk as though they are stuck in a miserable life and pretty much say that there’s no way to do what they really want or even just do something they like a little more. Henry ford would say they’re right and I’d agree with him.
As much as sometimes many of us would rather not admit, much of a persons ability to achieve things is a mindset thing and there are a lot of us out their who lack the Self belief to make things happen.
Leave a comment or drop me an email (email@example.com) sharing a few things from your dream day or dream life.