You should take your own advice

One of the easiest ways to gain trust is by doing exactly what you tell others to do. People are much less likely to listen to what you say if it's not what you do. And that's why I'm careful about the advice I give and the words I share, the truth is I'm still … Continue reading You should take your own advice →

Why shouting might not get the message across

The talker may assume the louder my voice the more they'll understand what I'm saying, or maybe they feel like you're not listening so they have no choice but to shout. Nobody likes being shouted at and so the listener instead of focusing on the message will focus on the fact that you're shouting and … Continue reading Why shouting might not get the message across →

Difficult but necessary

For some people there are certain conversations they'd rather not have. It's the difficult ones that we avoid where we have to be vulnerable. And maybe you get that swirly feeling in your stomach that you take as a sign not to go through those conversations. But when you avoid them all that stuff just … Continue reading Difficult but necessary →

Godin, sunk costs and making the right decision

In the process of making a difficult decision I turned to the words of Seth Godin for guidance. I found a few useful posts on sunk costs and it made me realise one of the things I needed to stop considering. The past. When making plans for the future if you do it based on … Continue reading Godin, sunk costs and making the right decision →

The deep end: It’s not that deep

On how life imitates being in water when you can't swim. Sometimes in all the flurry and commotion of being thrown into the deep end, you forget to check how deep it actually is. If you stop panicking and give yourself a moment to stop, to take a deep breath and to place your feel … Continue reading The deep end: It’s not that deep →

Don’t be so quick to judge

You can meet or come across someone and immediately assume this persons whole life. Then from the minute they open they’re mouth you’re deciding whether or not what they say aligns with or contradicts your initial assumptions but you’re still not giving the person a chance. But then life sets things up in a way … Continue reading Don’t be so quick to judge →

Lazy Daisy

Talking is good but doing is better. Lazy Daisy is more than just a strange song by George Clinton or a pair of words that rhyme it’s a phrase that perfectly sums up a trap that so many of us fall into. Wanting to start new projects, move to a new house, get a new … Continue reading Lazy Daisy →

The ‘Do It Now’ approach

Here’s to taking the bull by the horns and actually getting things done. A couple of months ago I became aware of my own small-scale procrastination. Putting off: making meals, doing the washing up, returning orders, making phone calls, booking appointments, raising issues etc. Granted I was only putting off the washing up by maybe … Continue reading The ‘Do It Now’ approach →

An alternative to seeking reassurance

It was either Seth Godin or Simon Sinek that once said that you shouldn’t seek reassurance because it’s something you can never have enough of. I don’t think I fully understood the statement until I observed it in others and in myself. Reassurance creates a temporary fence of stability that lets you know things are … Continue reading An alternative to seeking reassurance →

If your life is in a rut…

I think sometimes it’s easy for life to become a bit if a rut. Up at 0630, out by 0730, start work at 0830 finish at 1700, get home for 1800. Then eat, do a few house things like washing the dishes or laundry followed by things like reading, browsing online or watching a bit … Continue reading If your life is in a rut… →